“I’m pregnant…”

How will you react when your friend finds out she’s pregnant?

An unplanned pregnancy can be scary. She needs to know she is not alone. She can get through this, and you will be there to help along the way.

Here’s how you can help your friend, family member or girlfriend know she’s not alone:

What to do:

• Talk with her and listen to her. Ask her how she’s feeling and listen for ways you can help. Be there for her. Sometimes, the best way to help is to just be with her.

• Talk with the people who care for her. Offer to help her tell her parents, the child’s father, or other family members who need to know she’s pregnant. Listen for ways you can help her think through who to tell and when.

• Encourage her that there is help available and she is not alone. She has options, and we are here to listen to her and offer information about those options.  You can help her make an appointment by calling or texting our Helpline or by submitting a Request for Appointment.  

What not to do:

• Don’t shame her. She may already feel guilty, embarrassed, or ashamed. Be a safe person for her. Stay positive and encouraging!

• Don’t pressure her. You may know what you would do if you were in her shoes, but she is the one who needs to decide. She has choices to make, and she needs to know you’ll be there for her.

• Don't cut her off. Most women and girls in an unplanned pregnancy already feel alone. Remind her that you’ll stay with her—and listen to her—no matter what.

Have more questions?

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